Tuesday, April 24, 2012

C-Section or Wait? By Dr. Pamela Snook*

Taken From: East Orlando Sun April 11, 2012

"If you are a new mother or recently pregnant, chances are you have felt the wisp of air that follows the pendulum of modern medicine as it swings by yet again. The topic this time: elective deliveries before 39 weeks of gestation. Prior to taking a hard look at outcomes, the consensus in the medical community was that 37 weeks was considered “term” and deliveries after that point are deemed safe. So off we went and phone calls funneled into labor and deliver wards to schedule elective deliveries.
“Her husband is getting deployed.”
“Her mom is flying in from Texas to help with the sibling.”
“She’s miserable. We are heading for the finish line.”
In 1990, 10 percent of deliveries were electively performed before 39 weeks. Until recently, they accounted for nearly 25 percent of all deliveries. With the emphasis of evidence-based medicine, the pendulum is now swinging the other way and we, as a community, are learning that there is true merit to the saying, “patience is a virtue.” So what is the big deal?
It has become apparent that babies born between 37 and 39 weeks are more likely to have respiratory problems and simply put, they have more growing to do. The brain and liver continue to develop between 39 and 40 weeks. Perhaps most evident is the increased trouble they have with feeding because the coordination required for sucking has not matured. On the maternal front, there is a higher rate of C-sections in this patient population as well. This mode of delivery inherently carries increased risks including infection, bleeding and post-delivery pain.
And if this isn’t reason enough to shy away from early elective deliveries, there is also a significant economic impact as a result of this practice. C-sections are more expensive to perform and lead to longer hospitalizations. Infants that are not fully mature can require intensive neonatal care and that is costly. A study last year estimated that reducing early-term births to 1.7 percent could save close to $1 billion annually.
I personally have found that after appropriate counseling, patients are supportive of whatever delivery plan is best for their baby. Not only is an elective induction before 39 weeks against my practice’s policy, but it is also against hospital policy. Increased awareness of the dangers associated with preterm births is on the rise thanks to initiatives such as the March of Dimes Prematurity Campaign. Hospitals in multiple states, including Florida, have stopped elective deliveries — inductions and cesarean sections — before 39 weeks.
This information wouldn’t be complete without offering a few points for clarification. Health care professionals do not hesitate to recommend delivery before 39 weeks if there is a medical reason to proceed. These indications could include, but are not limited to: a mother sick with preeclampsia, uncontrolled diabetes and concerns for baby's health, such as small size. Patient care in these situations is very individualized, and the risks of continuing the pregnancy can outweigh the benefits.
This subject leads me to reminiscence about my interview days before residency. A wise physician sat in front of me, looked at my resume, and then pulled his reading glasses down on his nose to look me in the eyes. He then asked, “Can you tell me three attributes that make a good obstetrician?” As I paused and shifted uncomfortably in my chair, much to my relief, he proceeded, “A good obstetrician is a team player, decisive and perhaps most importantly… is patient. We are the only docs that wait 9 months for something to happen. Don’t rush things in its final stages,” advised Dr. Keith Stone. Coming from a physician who has long felt the breeze from the ever-swinging pendulum of medicine, I take great heed in his guidance. And from our experiences, we’ve learned. It is time to be patient and let Mother Nature do the planning."

*Dr. Pamela Snook is a board-certified obstetrician and gynecologist who completed her residency at Shands at the University of Florida. She has been a practicing physician for more than seven years and has garnered a special interest in high-risk obstetrics, infertility and minimally invasive gynecologic surgery. She practices at Contemporary Women's Care, 2111 Glenwood Drive, Ste. 208 in Winter Park. Call 407-478-OBGY(6249) or visit http://www.myobgynorlando.com/

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Trusting

I am trying to have faith. God has recently opened my eyes to knowing that He is "the one that opens the womb". There are reasons why this isn't happening for us. This journey, to pregnancy, if anything, has been one filled with faith building. I know I get impatient but, I am trying to listen to God and let things happen when they are suppose to. My faith is strong but, I know that there are things that I really do need to work on. One of those things is Trust. Trust that this process is in God's hands. Trust that things will happen when they are suppose to. Trust that the pregnancy will stick. Trust that the pregnancy will be healthy. Trust that God will do all things, for I am His child and He has my best interest at heart.
It has been a long and sad journey for us. I know, especially now that my faith has grown, that God has a plan for me. God wants me to put my trust fully in HIM. Yes, there has been heartache but, God has been with me every step of the way. He has sent people into my life that have been able to share God's word on the subject of pregnancy and childbirth. He has sent me comfort during times of loss and grief. He has sent me encouragement when things get hard. He is teaching me patience and divine timing. He is teaching me that man can do many great and miraculous things but, GOD is the one that should get the glory, not science (of any kind). Even science fails where God does not! He is miraculous and His name should be praised! May God continue to teach me. May God bless those that are truly His with all the comfort and love that they need to get through the tough times (and the good, for that matter!).

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Feeling Blue

I am coming to the realization that I may never be pregnant again. It hurts. I am not going to lie about that. I'm not sure what to do at this point. It doesn't look good, though.

I have had sex for days when I get a positive OPK test. Nothing has happened. If, by some miracle, I do become pregnant, it doesn't last. I am really, REALLY sick of false hope. I'm not sure I can handle this much longer. I think I might already be done.

The thing that breaks my heart the most is this: Kaine's birth wasn't what I wanted. I didn't know enough then to make it the birth that it should have been. My guilt is monstrous. I also have a very bitter feeling of "why was I led down this road if I am not going to be able to use it? So, I can feel like I am missing out?!" It's not fair. I am having a really hard time accepting that this is how it will be...forever.

I know, I still have time. But, really, not that much time. I know also that I am being selfish (not everyone gets to have at least one biological child). It's not fair that I think my situation isn't fair (especially when there are women out there that have indeed done absolutely everything!). I have major guilt about that too.

One of the worst parts of this dilemma is hearing about other people who have become pregnant. Especially the ones that have the "oops!". I hate those the most. It's like a big slap in the face. I used to love to hear about people having little ones. It was one of my greatest joys in life, honestly. Pregnant women were also so beautiful to me. I loved to run into them on the street, grocery or mall. Now, I get this sick feeling in my stomach. I try to smile at them and brush it off but, it sends me into sadness and, I think, bitterness too. I just want to box myself up and not come out.

I am full of self pity at this moment, and I do hope that you forgive me for that. However, unless you have been here, you don't know what I am talking about. I am sure you can imagine but, I don't want you to even have to experience that. No woman should feel like  she can't bring forth life. It's the worst feeling in the world. Trust me, I know.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Pregnancy after 15 months of TTC?

Pregnancy may be just around the corner for us. I have decided to start again. I didn't really plan it, I was just like, "What the hell!" So, we have been having a lot of sex lately. So much so, that I thought I had an infection, lol (TMI, I know!). Anyway, I am due to have a period in the next two weeks and if she doesn't show her ugly little head, I will test.
I am not really as excited as I used to be about the whole process. It has become very hard for me to "look for the signs" and actually believe them too. I just don't want to set myself up for failure. But, I am in a good place about the whole thing. I don't have the anxiety that I had the last few times. No real "What if?" issues. It is good. I am just in wait and see mode. That's the news thus far, hopefully more things will start to show and I will have more to write.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

On hold, until pregnancy

   I started this blog to track my unassisted pregnancy and birth. I still plan to do that, when I am pregnant. Right now, all things "baby" have been put on hold. I have been having bleeding issues that have led to miscarriage and infertility. I am currently working on this situation. I am losing weight, which, in my opinion, is a HUGE factor in what is going on with my body. So, the journey continues. I am hoping that by November or so, that I will have good news to share. I want this blog to be all about UP/UC. When the time comes, it will ALL be here!

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

The plans for the future

My journey to pregnancy hasn't been easy this time around. This past April marks the one year anniversary of us TTC. We have had two pregnancy this past year, both ending in miscarriage. We have also had a bunch of other worries: irregular cycles, huge blood clots, hemorrhaging during a period, extremely long menstrual cycles (3 months at a time). I have found out I have some issues with my vitamins as well. Apparently, I don't absorb vitamins like a normal person does. I am very low on vitamin D and B-12 (these are crucial, I have been told, in early pregnancy). These are ongoing issues that I will more than likely have to deal with the rest of my life.

On our journey right now, we are just focusing on getting my body back into balance. I am planning on taking Vitex (think herbal Clomid) to normalize my cycles and increase my ovulation. I am also planning on starting on cream progesterone. I am estrogen dominate, apparently. (All of this stuff has really just come to my attention.)

I was ready for a break after the last miscarriage (at 10 weeks). We had decided a few months ago to "give it a break". I just couldn't continue and really needed to heal after our loss. We have really started to look into the "why" of all of this. I was really hoping things would just "work themselves out" naturally. I think I am really going to have to focus on getting healthy and possibly waiting until all is well to continue TTC.

Another one of my concerns is, I may not be ready to actually be pregnant. I don't want to go through all of this, get pregnant, get really close to the "safe zone" (3 month marker), just to have another miscarriage. I really do want another one, I just feel like I can't handle another disappointment or loss. The last one was really devastating, especially since I really started to believe that I was going to be able to keep that baby. This next time, I won't be telling anyone until I am five months along. I don't want the drama and then I will KNOW (hopefully) that this baby isn't going anywhere!

Here is to a new game plan and a newer brighter outlook for the future!

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

What Research Did For Me:

I have been researching this decision for -I should say since- my son was born three years ago. I didn't really know it at the time but, everything I was doing to get over my c-section was leading me to unassisted childbirth. When I think back on who I was before I even wanted children (and yes, I was the person who was amendment about NOT WANTING CHILDREN!) I have to laugh. I would actually make comments like, "There is a reason they invented medication for childbirth!", "Those people must be crazy. Don't they know they don't have to go through that!?" Oh, yeah, it was bad.

I started by contacting EVERY midwife that would be available to me. And I do mean, every single one! Unfortunately, they all wanted things (in the name of  "safety") that I didn't want. I went so far as to talk to them for hours before I would move on. I wanted to make sure I was making the right decision. I wanted something different this time around. I didn't want a birth based in "what-ifs", "wait-and-see", "we will rule it out", "we will cross that bridge when we get to it", "anything can happen" and "you just want to be safe". In short, I didn't want a medicalized "high-profile" birth. Because, let's face it, that is exactly what I would have got. No matter how "VBAC friendly" they say they are, there is always going to be a factor of, "monitoring" going on. I didn't want someone else's fear to invade my peace of mind. I still don't.

What is different from a theoretical knowledge and actual use of that knowledge is this: As much peace as I have about this decision, there are people (good meaning people!) that will just never get it. They don't understand that I am not being reckless. That I have done research and thought this through. That this is the safest option for us. That, no, I do not  feel that this is for everyone. I wish there was more acceptance. No, you don't have to agree with it but, I don't want to hear your negative comments to try and change my mind. My mind is made up! We believe we are being safe. We believe we have made the right decision, for us. We believe that being in the care of a medical person (no matter who it is) would put us in more danger (because, let's face it, there is protocol that they have to follow-no matter what their personal dogma may be).

Let's face it, birth is a natural process. Adding all the machines, medicine and staff just complicate it. It adds more stress than is healthy, potentially causing more problems to develop (even if there were none to be had in the first place). No matter where you chose to give birth (and it should be a free choice mandated by no one but YOU!), you should feel safe, secure, in control, relaxed, comfortable and free to do what you would like. I just don't think you get that when you let other people into the process. In fact, I believe you slowly start to give up your part in the decision-making process. No matter how good your intentions were to begin with, you are still letting other people dictate the outcome.